I'm dour and sour

dour ( P ) (dr, dour) adj. dour·er, dour·est
Marked by sternness or harshness; forbidding: a dour, self-sacrificing life.
Silently ill-humored; gloomy: the proverbially dour New England Puritan.
Sternly obstinate; unyielding: a dour determination.
Courtesy of Dictionary.com

My friend taught me a new word, which he thought described me. He said, "You've got a veneer of being chatty and happy right now." I didn't realize veneer could be used outside the context of teeth.

His wife chimed in, "But you do seem melancholy."

He disagreed and stated, "No, I think she's dour." She referring to me, that is.

He spelled it for me and I thought it sounded like the word, sour. I looked it up on Dictionary.com, which actually listed dour and sour as synonyms. Interesting.

I asked if it's like depressed or sad. He doesn't think I'm depressed, but rather I'm sad. Last week, my other friend said that a shrink claims there is a difference between depressed and sad. My guy friend asked why I was sad. I came up with an answer, but I'm not sure if it's the truth, or at least the whole truth.